there is a guy i’ve liked for quite a while. we are more than friends, but not a couple. we don’t have sex, but we sleep together. we take vacations together, but go dutch. we like to refer to our relationship as a rube goldberg.
deep down i believe he is my soulmate, but the other day i felt that everything we had built could come crumbling down. all the feelings and attraction i had for him temporarily vanished when he said the following thing to me:
“I DON’T VOTE.”
he has never, and according to him, will never vote because “what’s the difference. all those guys are the same.” now, there are so many things wrong with that statement that i won’t get into here, but what i want to ask you is: “can i possibly have sex with someone who doesn’t vote?”
i know the simple answer is yes. if a person is hot, they are hot. but what means more to you when you sleep with people – their looks or their mind? there are so many good things about this guy, and i’ve never been a particularly political person. but the fact remains that voting is just something that all people HAVE to do. it’s like getting a drivers license or going to the doctor. responsible people just DO those things.
the truth is, if he voted for mccain, i would have been way more pissed than him not voting at all. and an additional truth is, no matter what, this guy will be a part of my life forever whether we eventually become a couple or not. but this did open my eyes to how quickly a person’s sexiness level can go down over some basic things.
i’m curious, what are some of your sex dealbreakers?